According to Autism Speaks, the newest statistics state 1 in 88 children have been labeled with an Autistic Spectrum Disorder. This means it is more prevalent than child cancer, juvenile diabetes, and pediatric AIDS combined. Chances are you or someone you know are affected by this disability. If your family is dealing with a child who may have a special need, it can be daunting to consider going out to dinner, let alone going on a family vacation.
Mary Meekins, a special education teacher urges that although more planning may be necessary for families of special needs children, it should definitely not be ruled out. She adds, “You know your child best; don’t underestimate what your child can handle.”
There are some basic things a parent can do when traveling with a special needs child. Here are four things you can do to make the trip enjoyable.
Contact the destination to see what accommodations are available. Fortunately, major tourist attractions will accommodate children with a variety of disabilities that go beyond wheel chair accessibility. Disney World is an excellent example. They offer discreet yet visible tags children can wear in any of the parks. For children who may become anxious and struggle in crowds, it allows alternate access and shorter wait periods to a variety of venues. To save park time, simply call ahead to determine how Disney can best assist you. Several parks and museums have similar options, and will work with you for a great vacation.
Consider the needs of your child and plan ahead. Think about what your child needs during school or at social events. Are they sensitive to noise? Bring lightweight earphones. Is personal space an issue? Bring something they can hold onto, like a toy car or stuffed animal that sets a boundary between them and other people. If your child uses a communication device during school, ask the teacher if your child can bring it with you on vacation. A lightweight waterproof backpack can be found at most sporting good stores. As your child acclimates, simply put the item in the backpack until it is needed again.
Focus on the fun, not the therapy. Vacation time is a time for fun and relaxation, and your child deserves a break from therapy. While it may be tempting to seize every opportunity as a teachable moment, let some things slide. Though you probably can’t stop therapy cold for a whole week, remember it is a vacation for your child as well! Pick and choose your battles. Chances are you need the break too!
Be realistic. If you need to leave the beach or park early, do it. While the park pass may have been expensive, if the point is to enjoy the day, do what works best for the family. If jumping on a hotel bed is more fun than building sand castles, so be it! Also, a three day getaway might be all your child can handle, but it’s better than nothing! So while you might be wishing for a week, keep in mind your child may be ready for that in a year or two!
A little extra planning can go a long way. And, like Mary suggested, your child may surprise you. Our son ended up being quite the adventurer! It made our trip even better than we anticipated.
Julia Garstecki teaches in the Developmental Studies program at Jamestown Community College. She is the parent of a son with Apraxia and ASD. Visit www.juliagarstecki.com.
