No matter how much you meal prep, meditate or Marie Kondo, motherhood is far from easy. It’s all too common for Mom to put her own needs after her family, career, home and friends – but carving out time for yourself is crucial so that you can be the best version of yourself. To kickstart your self-care journey, we looked to some of our past Moms Next Door for their self-care routines. From date night to “grandma yoga,” read on for how these 12 real-life supermoms take care of themselves.
“My ‘me time’ is my maintenance. I do a blowout once a week. I try to get a facial once a month. I get my nails done every two weeks … we’re no use to others if we’re not our best selves.”—Elizabeth Chambers, TV personality, owner/CEO of BIRD Bakery
“Getting a pedicure. Having a massage. Just getting pampered, which is why I made a place I can go to.”—Lucy Dang, owner of Pink Pedi Salon
Off the Clock
“One of my favorite things to do is go to the grocery store by myself or go get my nails done. I think it’s important to take out that time. One of my biggest fears about motherhood was losing myself. I’ve seen it happen and didn’t want to lose myself—I still wanted to be goofy and go out with friends.”—Kelly Cornell, director of Dallas Art Fair
“[My husband, Baxter, and I] have a rule that once we get out of the car, all work discussion is off. If we have an idea or something we want to talk about, we just put time on each other’s calendar. Putting those boundaries in place has really helped us.”—Amber Benz Box, mompreneur of LIKEtoKNOW.it
“Keeping myself healthy is really important to me. When I’m going too fast sometimes that suffers. Also, just having downtime every day—whether it’s 15 or 30 minutes—and being able to go out to dinner or something with friends are really important. As generic as all this sounds, those are the things that make me happy.”—Priya Bhola Rathod, blogger and philanthropist
Quality Time with Your S/O
“[My husband and I] try to make a cup of tea at night and take 10 minutes to connect and talk about the day.”—Jamie O’Banion, founder/CEO of Beauty Bioscience
“One thing that my husband and I do without fail is date night every Thursday. We love going to the movies. We both have to manage a lot, so it’s a chance to disappear into this fictional world and escape reality. Investing in each other is one of the best ways that we can invest in our kids and careers.”—Ginger Curtis, founder of Urbanology Designs
“I often wear the same thing two days in a row—and I fully own it. I don’t know why you wouldn’t. You can’t plan your life with a child. It worked yesterday so let’s just throw it on again.”—Taylor Tomasi Hill, creative and fashion director for The Yes.
Self-Care via Fitness
“I do what I call ‘grandma yoga,’ which is yoga that’s more about stretching, breathing and hitting reset. But certain things have had to fall by the wayside and working out has been one. I have started to spend more time with friends. I realized how important that is — just to laugh and have a couple of margaritas.”—Paula Minnis, founder of GAIA Empowered Women. (Learn more about the future of the nonprofit, now called GAIA Mishwar, an Arabic word that translates to “journey” in English.)
“I work out. That’s a big thing for me. I picked up running about three years ago. First, it was to lose weight, but then I realized I actually really like running. Distance helps me clear my mind. It’s my ‘me’ time. It’s definitely my Zen.”—Ashley Williams, star of Flip or Flop Fort Worth
“My mommy therapy is dancing. […] It’s my outlet. I can go in there feeling stressed about something, but I walk out with such joy. I get a dancer’s high. […] I think every mother needs a little time to herself. I know you want to pour yourself into your children because they’re your life, but you need to take care of yourself; otherwise, you’re not going to be the best mom you can be.”—Elena Davis, dance fitness instructor and special needs mom
“For me, yoga is a way of life. It has taught me so much about the power of the non-reactive mind, how to sit and surrender in discomfort, and how to be totally present. It teaches you balance and strength, active meditation and about being okay with trying something new and scary—even if you topple over. It teaches you to laugh at yourself, play and have fun.”—Vanessa Bouché, SMU research fellow and human right advocate