When it comes to being a mom, Erica Fisher of Fort Worth shares the same sentiments as Anne Morrow Lindbergh’s 1955 novel Gift from the Sea. “The concept of margin—that necessary white space left in your calendar—this is a concept I struggle with in motherhood,” she says. Fisher’s own life is chock-full with activities to say the least—her hands full with two children (daughter Ella, 7, and son Jack, 4)—and she confesses how easy it is for her to fill up that aforementioned white space with daily dealings and community involvement. The North Richland Hills native admits that staying centered while feeling pulled in many different directions isn’t always easy—and that sometimes, simply saying “no” is healthy. “I’m getting more selective about toward my family. I’ll always be drawn to serve outside my home, but I need to remember that my most important calling is to serve in my home.” Fisher, who candidly reveals she has a
Type-A personality, has to remind herself daily that “perfection is God’s business,” not hers. And like two peas in a pod, husband David is also somewhat of a perfectionist himself. Though Fisher says with a laugh, “He helps bring me down a few notches. David is the one that reminds me that dirt washes off of kids and clothes, but memories stick around.”
The couple met when they were children themselves: Fisher met her husband when she was just 11 years old. But it wasn’t until she was a senior in college that the now married couple went on their first date. And today, the happy couple makes it a point to spend quality time together—no matter how busy things get. “We are big on stealing away as husband and wife. Most recently we spent time reconnecting in the West Indies on St. Bart’s and then in the Bahamas.”
Faith and family may come first for Fisher, yet reaching out to those in need is personal passion that continues to be a big priority that she’d like to pass along to her children. “I want to travel the globe with them. Our little slice of the world is so homogenized, it doesn’t stir the soul. I want my kids to have a heart for people of all kinds—different societies, economic backgrounds, religions and cultures.” Fisher comments with gratitude that her kids are very blessed, and that seeing the injustice other societies face everyday would be an eye-opening experience. “I want them to have a deep emotion that reaches beyond simply having tolerance for people. Time is flying and they are getting big—I realize my time to shape their hearts is fleeting.”
Looking back at how fast time has flown, Fisher also recalls her own childhood: “At the age of 9, I informed my parents that I wanted to be a Deaf Ed/Special Education teacher,” she recalls. Fisher went on to earn her degree in Communication Disorders specializing in Deafness Education and Studies from The University of Texas at Austin. Before becoming a full-time mother of two, Fisher was a Special Education teacher in the Birdville ISD where she taught children with special needs. Even as a high-school senior, she was named the Fort Worth Star-Telegram’s Youth of the Year for volunteerism. But even if Fisher’s time is now being spent completely on the home front, she hopes to pass along the passion for giving back to Ella and Jack.
As for passing on her perfectionist tendencies to her kids? Well, that’s a different story. Like many exacting Type-A folks, Fisher keeps her fingers crossed that her children won’t inherit those traits that have been a hindrance to her. “I pray I can help them bend just a little more than [what] is comfortable for me personally—life would be so much easier for them. All the things I am not: spontaneous, flexible, carefree—I hope I can teach them those things.” With a clever smile, she adds, “Maybe they will listen to what I say and not watch what I do?” However, it appears that even if Ella and Jack turned out to be carbon copies of their mother, the world would be very lucky to have them both.