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Reality vs. Expectations of Having Kid #2

Are you about to have your second child? Maybe you already have. Either way, when it came to reality vs. expectations of having kid #2, did they match up? Our mommy blogger Lauren gave us her own realities vs. expectations along those lines.


I never thought that having two kids would be easy in any way.  However, what I thought would be “issues” don’t seem to even be a blip on my radar. I will admit that our transition to two kids went way smoother than I expected. Maybe I set my expectation too low; maybe I have superstar kids. My answer might depend on the day.

What I do know is that parenting did change. I became fantastic at coordinating things logistically. For example, bedtime became man-on-man between my husband and I. (We used to switch back-and-forth each night so the other could have some alone time.)

That being said, here are some other examples of how reality was not what was expected: 

Expectation: Sweet kisses and hugs between siblings
Reality: Sweet cuddles followed by someone smashing someones arm or leg and screaming

Expectation: Kids playing together so I can get the house cleaned up
Reality: Kids playing together for half a second, then screaming because they want the exact same toy despite having 100 other toys to play with

Expectation: Still getting “me” time for workouts
Reality: Kiddo’s crawling around and climbing on me during those workouts

Expectation: Meals together at the dinner table, full of love and conversation
Reality: Kids throwing food to the dog, lots of up and down from high chairs—oh, and chairs and dishes thrown on the ground

Expectation: Walks around the park together
Reality: Walking around the park, pushing a stroller and pulling my toddler on a bike because his legs are tired

Expectation: Admiring how sweet they are together
Reality: Your heart exploding when you realize how much they love one another and how they will protect one another 

Yes, expectation was not my reality. But that’s OK. Having two kids means twice the fun and twice the hard work—but infinite times the love. The season of raising a toddler and a baby at the same time can be really tough, but you have to laugh at the moments that come because while it might be hard, those kiddos are learning so much from us as parents.

It is a beautiful, messy and loving season, and though expectations don’t accurately depict reality, I wouldn’t change a thing!


Lauren is a thirty-something mama of two that loves to gab about family, food, fashion, fitness, Fort Worth…anything fun! She married her college sweetheart and has a little boy, little girl and one fur baby. She was born in Arlington, TX, raised in Edmond, OK, and moved to Fort Worth, TX, almost 10 years ago. She attended the University of Oklahoma and has a master’s degree in Human Relations. She loves gabbing and helping guide others—whether it’s finding the perfect outfit or navigating the throws of motherhood. She believes we are all here just trying to do the best we can and if she can help make life a little easier, then that makes her happy! Find her blog, Gabbing Ginger, online or on Instagram.

Photos courtesy of  Lauren, Gabbing Ginger.