Priya Bhola Rathod takes multitasking to new levels. The Greenway Park mom of two—Aria, 4, and Anya, 2—is a blogger with bylines appearing regularly on HuffPost and Model Behaviors. She’s highly involved in her husband Veeral’s Dallas-based men’s clothing company, J. Hilburn. And then there’s her day job: agency account manager at Indeed.
Before landing in Dallas nearly seven years ago, the New York native lived in Chicago and Los Angeles, managing sales and marketing teams for media groups including MTV Networks, Comcast Networks and Sony. On the side, she built a successful career as an on-camera host and reporter for various digital networks, covering film festivals and conducting red-carpet interviews.
After meeting Veeral and marrying him six years ago, Rathod moved to Dallas and immediately immersed herself in the local community. She was instrumental in developing video content for style blog DFW Style Daily and became a regular in the charity circuit.
“And this is me paring it down so as not to overcommit,” Rathod says. “And I still feel overcommitted …”
To be sure, it’s a full plate. But with the right support system in place, she doesn’t miss a beat.
Do you struggle with spreading yourself too thin?
As women, that’s something we struggle with a lot. Your aspirations don’t end when you become a mom, and I don’t think they should. But I have to remember there’s a season for everything. I can be professionally fulfilled right now, but I can’t do everything. The girls and my husband are a huge priority for me, and I’m not happy when I’m not able to devote the time I want to them. It’s been a journey for me to understand how to do that and still pursue my passions.
So how do you do it all?
I don’t think women can do it all unless they have the right support system in place. A lot is expected of women, and having my support system in place is essential. We have two great nannies. Veeral’s parents live an hour away in Sherman. My parents live in upstate New York, but they’ll fly in and help us. And I work from home, which has been a real blessing for me. Having that flexibility means the world. But keeping it real, there are days and weeks when you just feel like you’re failing at it all.
What’s it like having two so close in age?
The girls being only 17 months apart—which was a happy surprise for us— has been really nice. The first year is survival mode. It’s like having two babies at once. As they get older, every day gets a little bit better.
What’s your involvement with J. Hilburn?
When they need help with videos, I’ll help with that. And I’m really involved in rep events throughout the year because it’s one of the only times I get to spend time with the stylists. But we don’t work together on a regular basis. We’re not that couple that can work together every day.
Tell me about Mahila.
Last year, five of us Indian- American women got together and wanted to do something around helping women, domestically and abroad. So we decided to partner with Milaap USA for a Dallas event. I don’t think we realized how big of an undertaking it was, but we were able to raise almost $90,000. We’re proud of what we accomplished. Now, we’re in strategy mode, thinking about where we want to go next.
What do you do to feed yourself?
Keeping myself healthy is really important to me. When I’m going too fast sometimes that suffers. Also, just having downtime every day—whether it’s 15 or 30 minutes—and being able to go out to dinner or something with friends are really important. As generic as all this sounds, those are the things that make me happy.
How do you and Veeral stay connected?
We’re definitely foodies. We love watching Netflix series. And we recently started exercising together.
What’s your No. 1 piece of advice for new mothers?
It’s OK if everything isn’t perfect. There’s this pressure to have the perfect item for feeding and make sure you get the children on a nap schedule at this age and that age. It’s helpful to have all that advice out there, but do what works best for you.
What’s the worst advice you see out there?
That you have to have your kids in every single activity by the age of 2 in order for them to get into an acceptable college. There’s a time and place to push our children, but this idea of just letting them be kids is getting lost. There’s a lot to be said for just letting them enjoy this time to be kids.
Your favorite thing about being a mom?
Watching them experience new things and reliving those things through their eyes.