Homeward Hound
The do's and don'ts of getting a family dog
Words Sundey McClendon
Published DFW Everything DallasChild, CollinChild, FortWorthChild, NorthTexasChild
Updated February 20, 2019
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A jar on the counter at Kerri Well’s home in Mansfield has been accumulating change for the last year. Her kids—Natalie, 14; Kaitlyn, 12; and Jackson, 9—are saving up, not for a new gaming console or a trip to Universal Studios. For a dog.

As it turns out, finding the funds might be the easiest part of the whole pet process.

Well wants a small dog. Her husband, John, wants a big dog. The kids will take anything. “We really aren’t sure how to even start to choose a dog or what we would do once we got one,” the mom confesses.

Her family isn’t alone in their uncertainty. Before adding a furry member to the family, there are lots of variables to consider: Should you get a rescue with an unknown past? Buy a purebred from a pricey breeder? And how do you get the kids to help care for it?

Relax. Adding a dog to the family should be fun, so we begged—er, asked—Dr. John Harvey, a veterinarian at Cross Timber Animal Medical Clinic in Flower Mound, and renowned dog trainer Pam Martin (recently featured on America’s Got Talent), of Top Dog Obedience Training in Garland, to give us the do’s and don’ts of getting a family dog.

Do Research

Choosing the cutest pup at the pet store is a bad idea. Martin suggests that families look at their lifestyle first, then compare to different breeds’ temperaments, activity levels, trainability, shedding habits and other characteristics to find a good fit. “If you’re an active family, then a larger, sporty breed might be best,” she says. “But if you’re looking for a dog to cuddle with while you watch TV, you would want a smaller companion dog who doesn’t need a lot of room to run.” 


Finding Fido

Dogged by indecision? Let this quiz help you narrow the decision.

Our favorite family activity is:
A. Going on a family hike
B. Spending time outside
C. Binging on Netflix

When things break in our home we say:
A. “Add it to the pile.”
B. “Bummer, but oh well”
C. “Noooo!”

Our family schedule is:
A. Laid back
B. Some days are crazy; some days are calm.
C. “Eat this sandwich in the car; we’re late for practice.”

Our yard is:
A. A big job to mow.
B. Large enough for a game of catch
C. No yard = no problems.

MOSTLY As: Consider a dog from the working or herding category—a boxer, collie, German Shepherd, even a Great Dane. These dogs are smart, active and energetic. They need room to run and do well with families who can invest a lot of time in their training and activity.

MOSTLY Bs: Think about a dog from the sporting or hound family—a retriever, Rhodesian ridgeback, spaniel or poodle mix. These dogs are easily trained, intelligent and, with the proper investment of time, can fit well into a somewhat busy lifestyle.

MOSTLY Cs: Look to the smaller toy breeds for a companion dog for your family—a papillon, Chihuahua, toy poodle or Shih Tzu mix. They don’t need a lot of space and generally like to be held.

The American Kennel Club (akc.org) is a goodplace to start if you have a few breeds in mind. If you don’t have a breed preference yet, look at the Dog Breed Info Center (dogbreedinfo.com) to sort by breeds that tend to drool, make good guard dogs or will jog with you on a morning run.

Don’t Assume You Want a Puppy

“The younger [the dog], the more dependent it will be on you,” Martin explains. A puppy needs to be house trained and requires constant supervision, so an older dog may be better for families without loads of free time.

Do Let Someone Else Play Matchmaker

Some rescue groups, such as Paws in the City in Dallas (pawsinthecity.org) and Animal Hope in Fort Worth (animalhope.org), will swipe left or right for you, Harvey says. He advises families to work with rescue groups who foster dogs because foster owners get the inside scoop on potential pets. “Even within a breed, there is so much variation on personality that you really never know what you will get,” he explains. “But a foster owner can tell you exactly what you are getting.”

Don’t Choose a Breeder Lightly

If you’ve settled on a purebred instead, Harvey and Martin agree that breeders should be researched thoroughly. Arrange a tour so your family can see the facilities and meet the breeder, the dog’s parents and the puppies.

Do Make an Appointment With a Vet—Soon

Collect all of the new dog’s medical data, Harvey says, including shot history, deworming history and heartworm prevention care. Then try to get her to a vet within the first week or so.

Don’t Neglect the Bonding Process

“Creating a bond is crucial,” Martin stresses. “You must build a trusting relationship with your dog.” Plan to be home for the first few days after Lassie joins the family, and sign up for a local training program. “Basic training opens up the [obedience] world to the family and the dog,” Martin says. “And better behavior gives deepened trust and freedom for dog and owner.”

Do Make Caring for the Pup Fun

Little ones might not be able to walk or clean up after their new friend, but they can help you feed her. Make a game of it. Count the strokes while brushing her fur or see how many cups it takes to fill the water dish.

Don’t Let the Dog Babysit

For at least the first few months, you shouldn’t leave the kids alone with the dog—for the safety of both. “Neither of them really knows the rules yet,” Martin explains. “They are both still learning. Adults need to be present in that learning process until they both know what is acceptable and what is not.” Be prepared for school-age kids to grasp boundaries quickly; younger tykes will likely take longer.

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