Nature or nurture? Some kids are just born to be troublesome, according to a new report in the journal Child Development. Researchers noted that while parental conflicts obviously have an impact on kids, genes seem to be the key factor in children’s odds of developing argumentativeness and other conduct problems.
However, hereditary influences don’t let parents off the hook in being responsible for modeling good relationship techniques for our kids, cautions Lena Zettler Finholt of Cook Children’s Behavioral Health. “(The report) does not address how children are hurt by arguing parents — it only indicates that their is a link between explosive arguing and conduct problems in some children,” she observes. “Parents need to be able to demonstrate resolution of issues.”